At our LCMS seminaries, Call Day is just around the corner. After four years of preparation, the men will finally find out where they will be called to serve. But the guys aren’t the only ones who are anxiously waiting for this day. For many of these men, there is a wife who has supported, waited, encouraged, and struggled during each step of the seminary journey. Call Day will be no different as they sit in the pews and nervously wait to hear their husband’s name followed by the name of the congregation where they will be sent. How can our ladies prepare for this day? I spoke to several of the gals who went through this process just a year ago. How did they feel? What did they learn in the process? I hope their insights can help us as we move toward Call Day and beyond.
Put your faith and trust in God. “If I could do it all over again, I would try really hard not to overthink and overanalyze everything, because you could be spending a lot of time thinking about various different situations that might not ever happen! I know it’s easier said than done . . . but put your faith and trust in God. He ultimately is in control and has a plan for you. Even if that plan might not make sense when it is revealed to you on Call Day, you have to trust that where He is putting you is where you need to be.”
Liz Huff, a pastor’s wife in the Michigan District
So relax; God has this under control! Proverbs 3:5–6 reminds us, “Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make straight your paths” (ESV). You may not understand where you are going or why, but God does. You are a part of God’s greater story, and He absolutely has a purpose for sending you to exactly where you are going. Take comfort in that.
Cling to your spouse! Honestly, this is something that we should always do, right? But as you head toward Call Day and into your first call, this is even more important!
“This is a time when you and your husband will experience stress, concern, and transition. The BEST way to do this is together. This will be great practice for your future ministry together as well.”
Angie Walston, a pastor’s wife in the Missouri District
“Plan alone time with the hubby in order to process everything. Maybe it’s a date night here or there, but it could be a Friday-Saturday getaway.” Vanessa Lane, a pastor’s wife in the Northwest District
God tells us, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24 ESV, emphasis added). After Call Day, these words may be more powerful than ever before. You may leave family, friends, and jobs as you move to begin this adventure in ministry. But remember that God has made you one flesh, so hold fast to each other. Continually cling to each other and share every struggle, triumph, giggle, and tear. It will make the time of transition so much sweeter.
Stay connected to your friends from the seminary. “While you may feel alone at times, there are other women who are or have been through it. Call them or call someone a few years out who can encourage you. Also lean on your fellow called sisters to share moving highs and lows.”
Liz Schuler, a pastor’s wife in the Michigan District
The wives and mentors that you have bonded with during your time at the seminary are invaluable. Stay connected! Use Facebook or texting threads to stay in contact. Remember that you are not alone. Christ is walking beside you through this journey, and He gives you mentors and friends for encouragement as well.
Finally, have total comfort and know John 20:21: “Jesus said to them again, ‘Peace be with you. As the Father has sent Me, even so I am sending you’” (ESV). It’s normal to be nervous, but have total comfort that God Himself is doing the sending. No matter what is revealed on Call Day, Christ will be leading the way.