Having deep conversations with your kids is hard.
Not that I’d know, because I don’t have kids, but I was a kid just, like, last year (let me have this one, ok?). And I remember how hard it was for me to talk to my parents. Not because my parents were annoying or embarrassing or weird (well, more than normal parents seem to normal kids, anyway)—but just because being a kid is hard, and you don’t really feel like saying more than “fine, good, okay, yeah, sure” to your parents.
And I can only imagine how hard it is for parents to extract full-sentence answers from their kids at the dinner table. Trying to talk about real topics—like what it means to have integrity and be fair—is even harder than talking about what they learned in school that day.
Raising godly children is a difficult task. Teaching children about character is primarily done when you model godly character for them in everyday life, but talking deeply about these individual characteristics is valuable too.
What does it mean to have integrity? When is it hardest to be honest? How do you determine if something is fair?
How can you have these meaningful conversations in a way that is natural and helps your children grow in their faith? Here are a few simple ideas to building up godly character in your children—and starting those sometimes difficult conversations!
Make time for these conversations.
If you always wait for opportunities to discuss these issues to arise, you might be waiting a long time. Plus, only talking about issues as they happen means your kids might not feel prepared to tackle tough situations when they are suddenly faced with a choice. So while you’re on a 16-hour road trip to the Grand Canyon or eating dinner on a Tuesday, bring up these intentional conversations. But. . .
Take advantage of opportunities as they come up.
Maybe your child witnessed someone getting bullied, or maybe they’re mad they didn’t win their soccer game. Whatever your child is going through, you can teach them valuable lessons of godly character in any situation that comes up! (And hopefully previous conversations have helped mold their reactions.)
Share your struggles.
If you’re struggling with a situation you feel comfortable sharing with your kids, you can share what’s happening and ask for their advice! Maybe you know someone who fudged some numbers in your office, or maybe you saw someone steal some gum from the gas station. Discuss these real-life situations with your kids to help prepare them for the future.
Do you have any ways you talk with your kids about being godly? How are you building up the faith of children in your life?
You can download free godly character cards to help guide your conversations! Just fill out the form below.